The adjustment has gone really well overall, honestly. Abe pretty much immediately took to our time zone and got on schedule. We have had a consistent routine since day 1, and I think that has really helped him. We tried as much as possible to keep him on the same routine he had at the Transition Home...within our time zone, of course. :) He sleeps well, eats well, plays well, and is overall a really happy little boy. He began recognizing us as Mommy & Daddy fairly quickly, and we started seeing good signs of attachment early on. We are not "out of the woods" yet, and we have to keep reminding ourselves of that, but things are going well.
By most "outsider" views, he would seem completely attached and adjusted. And it's even easy for us to think that from time to time. However, we do have an "insider" view as his parents and as beneficiaries of much training, and we know what to watch and look out for. We have to remind ourselves to be mindful of these things and make adjustments from time to time. This can be difficult at times for many reasons.
You know, I've had to remember we have only been home with him for 43 days! Even though Abe is around 2, he's like a newborn to us, and we are brand new to him. Yes, he can function like a 2 year old, act like a 2 year old, etc. But as far as attaching and bonding with his parents...this is still new to him. He was at the Transition Home with those caregivers for about 6 months. He was taught to call all of the ladies "Mama" and the men "Ababa" (which means Daddy). He was at an orphanage for even longer and had a different set of "mamas" and "daddies." For all he knows, this may not be permanent either. It just takes time. So, we're reminded and continuing to learn that we still have things to watch for & pay attention to. We might have to make adjustments here and there as we already have. Some of these adjustments don't come naturally, and aren't maybe what we would choose to do with a child that I carried in my womb for 9 months. But, we pray that each of our decisions are Spirit-led and in the BEST interest of our sweet boy and our family. And we just ask that you pray that with us. We are SO thankful for so much love, support, and understanding from family, friends, our church family...It is invaluable.